Maysoon Zayid's Ted Talk and Self-pity
“Self-pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive.”Stephen Fry English comedian,writer,presenter and activist.
No wiser words have been spoken before.
Most of us have experienced those moments.
The moments when the universe seems to be directly conspiring against us.
It could be small things;your dog is sick, you have a horrible tooth-ache, someone beat you to a parking spot.
But sometimes,it could be pretty huge;a serious illness, bankruptcy,losing a loved one,divorce.
This is not fair
Why me? Why?
Most of us would wail.And for the most part, it is a perfectly legitimate question.There is something consoling about knowing that whatever it is you are experiencing, it just isn’t fair. You don’t deserve it. And this is exactly the problem.
The beauty of self-pity
At first we feel good about the unfairness of it all. Of knowing that there is someone or something to blame for our perils. There is something almost virtuous about this state. Except it doesn’t
last for long.
Self-pity is destructive
Self-pity eventually does what it does best. It squeezes life out of us. It destroys our self-belief.It paralyzes us.It stops us from making an effort.In other words,it reduces us to victims and spectators in our own lives.
Maysoon Zayid is a Palestinian American woman who suffers from cerebral palsy, a disease that on its own, is pretty daunting. But that is not the only thing about her. She is hilarious. Like really H.I.L.A.R.I.O.U.S.
At first, I was hesitant to watch her Ted Talk. I was afraid of how sorry I would feel for her. Life is tough enough for people without disabilities, I reasoned.
But then I watched ‘I got 99 problems and palsy is just one of them,’and I was completely blown away.