The surprising truth about English in Germany

When I first visited Germany for the first time in 2002, I got the impression that everyone spoke English: My partner’s family, friends and acquaintances all spoke English. Even though, some were not fluent, all of them could express themselves fairly well in English. During that visit, we did a small tour of  Germany starting from the small town in South west of Germany) near Heilbronn where my partner’s family lived  and headed to Berlin in the north about 600km away and then to Hamburg to the North-west and back. During this trip, pretty much everyone I encountered spoke English. I also noticed an eagerness of sorts among the many Germans I met to speak English. Strangers would often ask me probably because I looked different whether I spoke French or English. Needless to say, I concluded that one could get by in Germany without speaking German which as I later found out was at best naïve and at worst, well, very naïve J.

Lake of Constance
Lake of Constance

Living in Germany when you barely speak German

A year after my first visit, we again visited Germany and this time I had an inkling that maybe not everyone spoke English. We drove to the southern town called Constance (in German it is called Konstanz) to visit his aunts and uncle. Constance is a border town bordering Switzerland and is a very popular tourist destination. His uncle and aunts’ English was halting and since I barely spoke German, my husband did most of the translations.

 Soon after, we finally moved to settle in Germany.

As soon as we arrived, we set out looking for a place to rent. This phase was very difficult but we eventually managed to get a place largely because of help from my husband’s family and friends.


This early period was exciting mainly because there was so much to learn and to be shocked and surprised about. One of the things that I remember being particularly shocked about was the fact that one had to buy their own kitchen whenever they move into an apartment. A built-in kitchen is not part of a German lease. The other thing was the shocking figures/amount of money one had to pay the real estate agent. I think we paid two months’ rent as commission to the real estate agent and a month’s rent as deposit.

But all these pale in comparison to what awaited me. As soon as my husband started working, I settled into my new life and went about learning German. I suddenly had to do things for myself for example buy myself a tram ticket, shop for food, just run daily errands and at this point I started realizing what I had deep down suspected; that most Germans don’t speak English. Like my husband’s extended family, they understand English but it isn’t a language that they are comfortable speaking. I remember especially dreading going to a bakery. I would walk into a bakery and feel a latent dread. The baker behind the counter would look up at me with an expectant face. I would fumble trying to decide what to order and how to say it correctly in German. And almost always, there would be someone waiting in line and watching and listening impatiently to the ongoing circus. I resorted to just using my hands pointing to what I want and nodding or shaking my head. The few times I attempted to talk in English, I was often met with blank faces or puzzled irritated looks.

A bakery in Germany
A bakery in Germany

Visiting a doctor

But if I thought that this was bad, it was about to get worse. At around that time, I went to a gynecologist. I was then expecting our first child. My husband had called them and made the appointment for me but I went alone. When I arrived at the doctor’s practice the assistant handed me a bunch of forms to fill but they were all in German. With my basic knowledge of German, I could neither read nor understand what was in the forms. The two assistants spoke no English. I still vividly remember the exasperation on their faces when they realized that I could barely speak German. They had to do a blood test, measure my blood pressure, do urine test and all kinds of stuff and they had no idea how to communicate that to me. One of them, the younger of the two held her arm and then pointed to my arm and then to a blood pressure cuff.  She repeated the process with a syringe to communicate that she needed to get some blood. When it came to urine, she didn’t quite know how to demonstrate but I somehow understood what she meant. To call that experience a nightmare would be a huge understatement. Luckily, the gynecologist, walked in and to my relief spoke to me in perfect English.


This particular episode repeated itself several times. Whenever I went for a doctor’s appointment, whether dentist, gynecologist or whatever doctor, the assistants tended to not speak English while the doctors tended to speak English.  The challenge however was that most of my interactions were with the assistants. I had to call them to schedule the appointment and to somehow manage the pre-appointment stuff before seeing the doctors. 

Losing confidence and feeling miserable

It was almost as if the Germany I had visited previously where everyone spoke English was a different one from the one I had settled in.

The effect of all these on me was a massive erosion of confidence. Not being able to express myself and listening to people discuss issues affecting me without my input is one of the most humbling things that I have ever experienced.

I continued learning German even more determined to overcome the difficulties and break out of this nightmare. I was surprised at how naïve I had been about the German language. For some crazy reason, I had convinced myself when I first started learning German that it wasn’t so different from English. ‘Guten morgen, Good morning’! sounded very similar to me. And now to my horror, I was finding out that it wasn’t just different, it was on a totally different level. Every noun had an article (die, der, das) which ultimately affected how to conjugate and construct correct sentences. Not using the correct article could easily make one sound like a moron which I did for the most part. The worst part was that these articles were all random and you somehow had to just know by heart that a table is male, milk is feminine and a book is neutral.

Needless to say, learning German was a long and frustrating experience. Regardless of how much I learnt, I often had the feeling that I couldn’t quite communicate with normal folks. There is something about learning a language from a text book that is quite unnatural and rigid. I had seen and experienced this in Kenya where tourists armed with Swahili lessons would go around telling people ‘jambo’or ‘hakuna matata’ .While this is all correct and proper, no Kenyan actually goes around greeting people with ‘jambo’ or saying crazy stuff like ‘hakuna matata’. It is very touristic and awkward.


I was increasingly faced with a situation where my German was improving but the quality of my interactions were not. I felt awkward and unsure of myself. The other thing is that I felt an intense sense of shame whenever I was unable to express myself or made mistakes. Learning a language involves a lot of trial and error. One has to practice in order to get better. While this process is relatively uncomplicated for children because they don’t feel ashamed when they make mistakes, it becomes more complicated the older one grows because as adults we feel self-conscious. Being corrected is kind of cute when you are travelling around a country as a tourist but when you live in the said country, you start feeling the condescension that comes with it.  I naturally resented this. As a result, I started avoided talking German unless I was 100 percent sure that whatever I was saying was correct. This is probably the worst strategy when learning a language. The less I talked, the less practice I got which ultimately meant that I was trapped in a vicious cycle of stagnation.

Watching from the sides,a spectator in own life

My husband seeing my frustration decided that he was going to help me out by practicing German with me. We would only talk in German to each other. By doing that, I would practice listening and talking German in a safe environment. This didn’t go well. I would concentrate on trying to construct correct sentences and he would point out the errors and explain how to say them correctly. While on the surface this might sound like a brilliant idea, the reality was that it turned our lives into a monotonous dreary existence.  I would often be pissed off at his incessant enthusiastic corrections. And he would be frustrated at my frustrations. After a few weeks, we were done. We went back to talking to each other in English.

I can describe my life then as being trapped in a parallel universe. It’s incredibly tiring to communicate by using gestures or to constantly look through dictionaries to figure out how to say something correctly.

I really missed a normal life. I missed small talk. I missed laughing. I found out that it’s impossible to laugh when you don’t understand what’s going on around you.


I lived in Germany without living in Germany. I could see what was going on around me but I was a spectator in my own life. I had, like many foreigners taken the English in Germany at face value. 

5 important points to remember about English in Germany

·        There is a very big difference between visiting a country and actually living there. When you visit a country as a tourist, you concentrate on doing fun stuff. You are not going to work or running day to day errands.What this means is that one is often surrounded by people whose objective is to make one’s life as painless as possible. What I didn’t realize and painfully learnt was that these kinds of people are the minority rather than the majority in any country. Germany is not an exception.

·        Many Germans understand English but because they don’t practice it, they do not necessarily feel comfortable speaking it. I believe that this was the case when I first arrived  and continues to be the case even today. English in Germany is largely passive

·        As a tourist, you can get away with speaking no German. People will go out of their way to help you out. This luxury is not accorded to foreigners who live in Germany. I for example quickly started feeling peoples' impatience and frustration.

·        Many people think that it is only the uneducated people in Germany who don’t speak English. This is not completely true. There are very many very well educated Germans who don’t speak any English, again I think because it is a language they don’t need for their day to day work.

·        There is also the belief that how well one speaks English has something to do with their age. While it is true that a relatively high number of young people in Germany speak English, it would be foolhardy to make such a generalization.

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Comments: 14
  • #1

    Michael (Friday, 29 September 2017 10:42)

    Very interesting stuff. I started learning a foreign language while living in the country it's spoken as well (Spanish). I sat down every day and just hammered list of words into my brain. Hardly any grammar at all. And this paid off, once you know the words, you can concentrate on building the sentence.... don't know how this works in German though, but it helped me in other languages as well.
    Some small corrections for the article: "Heilbronn" ends with two "n", not with one. "Meersburg" has no "e" between the "r" and the "s". "Bodensee" is not the German word for "Constance", it's "Konstanz" - Bodensee is the "Lake of Constance".

  • #2

    CAJ (Saturday, 30 September 2017 10:36)

    Hello Michael,
    Thanks a lot for reading and for the corrections…very much appreciated. I don’t how well that would work in German. I think I particularly struggled because I kept going back to English and trying to make sense of everything. In retrospect, I now believe that it would have been much easier to just concentrate on German without confusing myself with English. I would have probably saved myself a lot of frustrations.

  • #3

    steve (Sunday, 01 October 2017 17:46)

    English is required learning in German schools, much as it is in the Netherlands. Children also go to school longer each day and on Saturdays.

  • #4

    Rose (Saturday, 07 October 2017 17:46)

    I just feel like you have told my story. Read it with a smile

  • #5

    maggie (Saturday, 07 October 2017 19:38)

    omg this is exactly what am going through @ the moment have been here for 7 months now and starting to feel frustrated ..i dread going out to meet hubby's friend nowadays as most of them don't speak english i just sit quietly through outing even though he does most translations ...however am determined to learn & hopefully my stay here gets better

  • #6

    CAJ (Wednesday, 11 October 2017 15:07)

    Hey Rose,
    Thanks for reading!! You made me smile :-) I hope that this will encourage someone not to give up.

  • #7

    CAJ (Wednesday, 11 October 2017 15:12)

    Hey Maggie,
    Thanks for reading and for sharing your experience. I can only imagine how lonely and frustrating that must be. Just hang in there.It does get better...trust me :-)

  • #8

    Rob akd The Property Guy Germany (Friday, 13 October 2017 14:34)

    Saw this post on Quora and I must say it sure brought back some memories of when we first arrive! I've been here 20 years and my (German) family still complain that I talk too much English. Having a wife who is know fluent does make one kind of lazy!

    Are you still in Germany?


  • #9

    CAJ (Tuesday, 17 October 2017 18:38)

    Hey Rob,
    Thanks for reading! Yes I still live in Germany. I just marvel at how long and difficult a process it was to learn German.

  • #10

    Sebastian (Saturday, 21 October 2017 03:44)

    Hey, nice story. Coming from Germany I can only tell you that it is absolutely true that tons of people, even younger ones are not really interested in english, or any other foreign language for that matter. I felt always frustrated at school that people where complaining about even the simpelest english texts and showing no desire to learn the language. What i can say is that, from my experience it is okay to get around with english in the big cities (although is still can pose some porblems) it is virtually impossible on the countryside.

    Since I live in the netherlands now for over 10 years I can tell you that it is just as frustrating when you start talking dutch to people, because you want to learn it, and people as soon as they hear it is not your native language start talking english to you.
    But after using dutch for over ten year i realized that now, on some topics, the dutch or the english word pops right into my head, whereas i actually have to think about the german word, even though it is my native language.
    But anyway, congrats on your persistence. To end with some words from mark twain:

    My philological studies have satisfied me that a gifted person ought to learn English (barring spelling and pronouncing) in thirty hours, French in thirty days, and German in thirty years. It seems manifest, then, that the latter tongue ought to be trimmed down and repaired. If it is to remain as it is, it ought to be gently and reverently set aside among the dead languages, for only the dead have time to learn it.
    - Appendix D of A Tramp Abroad, "That Awful German Language"

  • #11

    CAJ (Saturday, 21 October 2017 12:52)

    Hi Sebastian,
    Thanks for reading and for your comments. I hope you like your life as an expat in the Netherlands :-). You are absolutely right. There is definitely more English in the cities in Germany. Younger people also don't necessarily speak English. I think people over-estimate how much English they speak.
    And thanks a lot for this gem from Mark Twain. It certainly helped me through difficult phases.
    "a gifted person ought to learn English (barring spelling and pronouncing) in thirty hours, French in thirty days, and German in thirty years."

  • #12

    Sarah B. (Monday, 13 November 2017 00:25)

    This is so encouraging, just to know someone else has experienced similar struggles in learning the language while living in Germany. Thanks for sharing!

  • #13

    Barbara B. (Friday, 17 November 2017 16:38)

    Thank you so much for this article. So far, I`ve thought I was kind of a weird person. I`ve been living in Germany for 2 years. I speak English, French, Italien, Spanish yeah, but my German was quite basic, at the beginning. What`s worse, people here where I live speak a dialect. I thought I`d manage to feel ok. I started by having many friends from France, Canada, the UK ... a real Babbel tower, but every time I wanted to sort out things in all kinds of offices, I felt as if I was an intruder or somebody a bit retarded. My question "do you accidently speak English" was answered with: "why? It`s Germany" or something like this. I understood that it`s good to have a German person to accompany you. My first job here: teaching English and .... I had to learn German! My students wanted me to translate everything!!!! That was a shock after my 35 years spent as an English and French teacher. Almost all textbooks are published in Stuttgard and all the instructions are in German, whereas in my country we`ve used Longman, Cambridge, Oxford and e.t.c publications with only target language. My grandgson goes to school here and is lucky to have an English teacher who spend a couple of months in the UK, so she teaches English to her students, not about English.
    In the end, I`ve learned German, my English is dying and I still ask a friend to accompany me to offices to be treated fairly.

  • #14

    CAJ (Sunday, 19 November 2017 14:51)

    Hi Sarah,
    I think for most expats, the first one to two years in Germany can be a mini nightmare. Thanks for reading!
    Hi Barbara,
    Thanks for sharing your experience. German is difficult and German dialects sometimes sound like completely different languages. I can only imagine how frustrating this must have been for you.
    *I felt as if I was an intruder or somebody a bit retarded* This made me chuckle.I think most expats here have felt this at one time or another. It's incredible how much of our confidence as human beings is drawn from being able to express ourselves and understand what's going on around us. Glad to know that you now speak German..don't let your English die...:-)